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Hello and welcome to my website!

I’m a relationship and self-development coach and I work with people on their relationships with themselves and others. What do I mean by that?

The ‘others’ bit is pretty clear. I work with individuals and couples on their romantic relationships, friendships and workplace relationships. Clients come to me to help sort out conflicts and difficulties they are having with others, and I support them to understand what is prompting this and work on communication and behavioural change. Some of the issues you may bring, either as an individual or couple, are:

  • You want to find a partner or get back into dating.

  • Something has changed for you – a new family, pregnancy, retirement, a new job – and it’s putting pressure on your relationship.

  • Things have got routine for you as a couple.

  • You are no longer in love and may want to break up.

  • You need help after a break up.

  • You are not communicating well with your partner, leading to resentment and arguments that don’t resolve anything.

But what about your relationship with yourself? Often people come to coaching to gain insight into themselves, and need a safe, confidential space to explore that. It might be that you have trouble with perfectionism, not being assertive, self-criticism, indecisiveness, drivenness, to name a few. We can explore what is driving these feelings and behaviours and work together to heal these internal relationships and work towards change.

Sorting out these internal and external relationships can really help to free us to be ourselves, do what we really want, have more confidence, express your needs, be more creative, be more assertive at work, accepting oneself and others and many other goals.


What is relationship coaching?

Coaching is a unique approach to managing relationships. We work together (or as a team) to identify what your goals are, to get understanding and problem solve, and work on solutions that are based around who you are. The past is important in relationships – it always is. There is always something to know about how our early life creates patterns. But coaching doesn’t just focus on the past.

Using that knowledge of the past and current patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour, we look at how it all affects you and your relationships in the present, and we work on strategies to break out of them. Will also, where relevant, share psychological and therapeutic ideas that may help to understand dynamics. Above all, the purpose of having a coach is to have that unconditional support and recognition which helps people cope and thrive in the world.

I’m always optimistic that we can not only understand, but change our lives for the better.

I work with a diverse, cross-cultural clientele. Being inclusive, seeing and accepting the whole person and embracing difference is a core part of my history and coaching style.

I am currently seeing clients remotely. I offer a free, one hour consultation session and the following rates thereafter: Individuals - £40-70, Couples - £60-90, One-off session - £50-80, depending on ability to pay.


Qualifications & experience

My qualifications are a PhD and all that comes before that (my field was philosophy, social theory and urban studies, which does inform my coaching), a Diploma in Transformational Coaching from Animas, a Diploma in Counselling from the Colchester Institute, and I have completed a Diploma in Relationship Coaching from the Salus Academy. My coaching qualifications are all accredited by the International Coaching Foundation (ICF), which is the benchmark for quality coaching training and practice.

I’m accredited by the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) and have submitted my application for accreditation from the ICF (it basically means I am recognised as working within the ICF’s core competencies, i.e. a professional, reputable, ethical and good coach).

I’m committed to ongoing professional development, engaging in regular training and supervision.

Professionally, I have worked as an academic and journalist before becoming a coach. I have had 30 years of experience mentoring students and others to acquire the confidence to achieve, often against heady odds.


A client's story

“When I first reached out to Deborah, I was exploring a new approach to my private practice, and I was curious about accessing coaching support along the way.  I am so glad I did.  Meeting with Deborah brought such inspiration and vitality, which has given me a clearer sense of direction in my private practice. Coaching sessions helped me become more aware of self-limiting beliefs and tended to my challenges and creative blocks, offering new ways of seeing and being in the world.

I love the space for spontaneity and laughter that Deborah holds. It was great to be able to feel free to express a range of emotions and have fun too, while working on overall goals as well as matters of the moment. The creative explorations and tasks offered gave me opportunities to challenge myself and try new things, inspiring me to take action between coaching sessions. 

What I really valued was the way Deborah acknowledged both what I was saying with my words and body (posture and gestures). I had mentioned to her that I find it helpful to process things with my body and movement, something I encourage clients to do in my private practice.  After sessions, I'd get up and move spontaneously, giving space for new insights to shift how I hold things in my body and uncovering further insights.  I am so grateful that there was space for this to be supported and incorporated in reflections between coaching sessions.

I would highly recommend working with Deborah.  I am so grateful for the incredibly valuable opportunities of shift and momentum Deborah offered to the stuckness and resistance I was experiencing.  Working with her has helped me notice parts of me and the world that I'd not paid attention to before, and I know and my life and private practice are much richer for it."


Other testimonials


I would like to say a big thank you to Deborah. Working with her as a trainee coach myself over the past five weeks has been very productive and inspiring. She helped me to further reflect on my life, gain further clarity as well as visualise my own future goals on a step by step basis. I would definitely recommend her to potential clients. Thanks for all your help Deborah, you're awesome!

Fajah, trainee coach and mum

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